It seems like a lot of students rush into marriage. I have never quite understood why people can’t wait until after college to get married.
If two people are in love, they should be able to wait until after college to get married. If someone can’t wait around, then obviously that person isn’t worth marrying. There’s no rush to be married.
Many parents “cut off” their children if they marry during college, because they think their children are no longer their responsibilities.
Many times, married students don’t have aid in paying for tuition, books, fees and living expenses. It is often hard to continue to pay for school, especially when there are two people to support. And financial aid doesn’t cover everything.
After graduation, these couples usually still have to pay off their college loans, adding more years of financial stress. The added stress of school can make marriage difficult.
Many times, people get married young for reasons that don’t make sense to me.
For example, I think people getting married because they want to be able to have sex without God being disappointed is simply ridiculous. And yes, people have done this before.
I also don’t understand why anyone would ever get married because they got pregnant. A child before marriage increases your chances of divorce.
Many people see getting married after having a kid together as a simple fix, but often those marriages end in divorce, or the two people stay together and are miserable.
According to Americans for Divorce Reform, 50 percent of marriages end in divorce.
I don’t really want to be in this category, so I’m not going to rush into marriage. I want to be as sure as I can that the person I marry is the right person.
We have our whole lives to be married. It’s important to move wherever you want after college, be successful in your career and live the life you want.
It’s hard to achieve what you want when you have to worry about being someone else, too. Sometimes, it is necessary to be selfish, because you only get to be a college kid once.
College is a time for you to change and develop into the person you need to be. It’s hard to do that when you are bound to someone. The college years, and the years following, are so important for growth. And everybody deserves the opportunity to grow on their own.
Chelsea Quinlan is Assistant Intrique Editor of The Auburn Plainsman. You can reach her at 844-9112 or chelsea.quinlan@theplainsman.com.
