Your View: Belittling Women is not a Part of How Southern Chivalry Should be Defined
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Editor, the Auburn Plainsman

I was recently referred, by a friend, to an article appearing in the Wall Street Journal regarding football traditions in the SEC.

Auburn’s program acts as a primary example of many points made by the author.

What I find particularly appalling and embarrassing is the quoted material offered to the publication by members of Auburn’s student body which illuminates, proudly, a part of our campus culture which should be discouraged, if not at least hidden.

That part of the culture being the “dating games” for the football season (as labeled by the author and illustrated by Auburn students).

The most humiliating, though telling, part of the article is the characterization of women given by various fraternity men regarding football knowledge and femininity/masculinity.

One particular student claimed that it was undesirable for a girl, who is a date, to be more knowledgeable about football than a boy because it is “emasculating.”

Instead, a desirable candidate is a girl who can adequately baby-sit and nurse a drunken and childlike man who is too inebriated to behave with maturity and decorum.

I find it completely ridiculous that one would find a knowledgeable girl emasculating; what is emasculating is that you “gentlemen” cannot get your acts together and stay sober enough to stand up, refrain from violence and diminish your consistent ability to offend the rest of the population of game attendees through brash yelling and profanities.

What is also emasculating is the unified abandoning of academic responsibilities of many Auburn men (and women) days in advance of a home game as evidenced by absence from classrooms and campus in general in favor of partying downtown.

Perhaps if we gave more attention to becoming an institution known for our academic endeavors rather than our date selection and football program, then Auburn wouldn’t be negatively portrayed in an international publication, thus providing an avenue for commentary which labels Southerners as “uneducated” and “sexist.”

What is additionally laughable is the statement that all of this is part of “Southern chivalry” and part of “building better men.”

I hope that “Southern chivalry” does not truly involve degrading women by scoring them as potential dates based on the criteria of who can best nurse a hangover while looking the sexiest in an orange dress.

I also hope it does not mean provoking fights in the stadium, cursing our players in times when we’re struggling to score, and getting tossed onto the pavement by Jordan-Hare security before the game even commences due to being intoxicated to the point of irrationality.

Women, I also implore you to consider yourselves worth more physically and intellectually than accessories to this behavior, beings only useful as mannequins and supporters of unappreciative men.

Do not concern yourselves with purchasing cute dresses and accompanying boys to parties, suffering all the while through the above-mentioned behavior simply to get a good seat and a plate at a tailgate celebration; rather, view yourselves as good enough contributors to our campus to denounce this behavior and work to discourage the Wall Street Journal’s published, negative perception of our institution’s current social climate.

Benjamin Arnberg

Pearl Shields

Graduate Students, English

comments (3)
« Defending Auburn wrote on Wednesday, Mar 03 at 12:55 AM »
I too know more than one of the men quoted in the article. They girl who wrote the article was incredibly out of line. She wandered to tailgates and asked random fraternity men loaded questions without explaining who she was and what she was doing. She also made up answers to questions from people she didn't even speak to.

To the letter writers, I find it appalling that you feel this way about our University and outstanding greek system. These are people who are taking advantage of the great things that this community has to offer and making the most out of our top notch football program.

I would be willing to bet that these people will be happier and more succesful than either of you in the long run. After all,you are a graduate English student.
« Defending the Quoted wrote on Tuesday, Feb 16 at 10:27 PM »
I know at least one of the male students who was quoted, or should I say misquoted, in the article. He never used the term "emasculating" and he along with the other male student interviewed were highly offended at the way their words were manipulated for the sake of the WSJ's objective.

While I am not an advocate or fan of the Greek system as a whole, this particular article was a prime example of a journalist taking "poetic license" for the sake of their own platform.
« Glenny wrote on Tuesday, Dec 01 at 03:46 PM »
Benji, Pearl Lighten up. These people were being honest. If in their 19 year-old-minds those qualities in a date are the standard well yes maybe that have been watching the number one rated situation comedy show and imitating art--the show Two and a Half men. A cute dress is a cute dress and hard to find. If I see a cute dress and I look great in it that cute dress is sold. OMG the football season is time to have fun and well the grown-ups are tailgating and well, some more some less else is going on . It is a time to learn all work and no play makes jack a dull boy. Everything in moderation -- though you do want to Graduate with a degree from Auburn don't you??? The university does not give diplomas away. Knuckle down when it is time to knuckle down and do Auburn proud ya'll.