But I can’t deny it any longer.
I am a Valentine’s Day hater.
Embarrassing, right?
Let me explain myself, though, because my reasons may not be what you were expecting.
I don’t have any terrible horror stories. I am not bitter because I am single every year. I couldn’t care less about how much money card companies make.
I hate Valentine’s Day because of the judgment in people’s eyes as I walk through a restaurant to sit with my boyfriend.
I hate being told that the dinner special is for couples only and having to explain that yes, we are a couple.
I hate seeing people whisper about the gay boys in the corner, pointing at us and snickering to their date.
I hate Valentine’s Day because it is not a holiday meant for me.
Some people would tell me to not let it bother me, and that I shouldn’t be ashamed of who I am. The phrase “toughen up” may have even been thrown around a couple of times.
But I am tough, damn it.
I have handled the gay jokes and snide remarks my entire life. I have been called a faggot since sixth grade. I was publicly outed not once, not twice, but three times in the four years of high school. I watched as my dorm roommate packed his shit up and moved out the same afternoon he found out I was gay (you would think the Kelly Clarkson poster would have tipped him off earlier).
My skin is pretty thick.
Then, on the one day that is supposed to be about celebrating the love between two people in an intimate relationship, I get slapped over and over again with my “other-ness.” I get constant reminders that my love is a source of disgust to most people around me.
I have never been ashamed of who I am, but that feeling can wear down even the hardest of hearts.
And to be completely honest, I would rather just not deal with it.
I wish Valentine’s Day could be replaced with Halloween #2. At least there would be Jell-O shots. Even celebrating Thanksgiving again would be an improvement.
However, it is very rare that I let myself utter those mood-killing words. Saying “I hate Valentine’s Day” can be like a kiss of death to even the strongest of relationships.
So for my boyfriend’s sake, I have promised to keep my mouth shut and put on a happy face.
I will get the cheesy card, the overpriced box of chocolates and even go out to eat a fancy dinner.
So this Sunday, if you see me holding my boyfriend’s hand under the table or sharing a piece of tiramisu for dessert, try to keep yours eyes on your date and your opinions to yourself.
What this is really about is respect. You ought to give the same respect to two boys holding hands as a boy and girl doing the same. You may not agree with it and you may not like it, but we cannot hold some citizens to different standards than others.
they are different. Everyone knows it. Not knowing it makes you sound like a redneck.
You're a complete and utter idiot who obviously has no foundation of the English language, but alas you are my hero.
Thanks for saying the truth, no matter how much you butchered the English language in saying it.
Maybe when we straight people take back over the world we will spare your life so you can be a janitor or something. Obviously we could not put you in a "normal" job. But you can clean my shit for sure. Doesn't take much skill to move a mop, or apparently post on a web site. So good job Cougar. Way to set up some job security.
THAT SON OF A BITCH!!!!!!!
until one of them shoots a man in cold blood while he is greeting people in his place of worship.
until one of them commits genocide
until one of them bombs the abortion clinic or the federal building.
Shut up. just shut up. It's excuse makers like you that empower these people to destroy the lives of others. They are wrong. Plain and simple. They are acting on the divine speak of a made up entity. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Just stop acting like he/she/it is ACTUALLY telling you what is right or wrong in the world. It's pathetic and getting old.
What about the hateful dumbass gay rights activists that disrupted church services in Michigan?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ZJvMzSKmKA
There is a also a similar incident that happened in California during the Prop. 8 vote.
There are extremist on both sides and you aren't helping your cause (if any) by grouping the majority of Christians with a select few. Just like it wouldn't be right for me to think that all homosexuals are screaming psychos.
People are going to have different opinions. If all you got is name calling, I feel sorry for you and the people you are "defending".
If I would have seen two gentlemen going to have dinner on February 14th, I wouldn't have thought anything of it. I hope they had a good time because that is what this world needs more: Happy People.
To hateful, dumb ass Christians like you who take God's name in vane every time you speak for him!
God doesn't care!!!! When will you people realize that?!?
Never, because you're scared. It's easier to remain scared than ever change your subjective little minds into something worth saving. Until then, you are enemies of the people. You serve no purpose to the human race other than to be road blocks in the name of god.
That is my belief. I don't care what you have to say because in my eyes, not God's, you are second rate species, unfitting to walk the same earth as me.
unfortunately you do. I just have to deal with it.
It's a real question. Think about it.
The real question is who is more useless to the overall security of the species? hmm?
Probably you. Go back to your trailer and your sister.
Stop trying so hard on here.
Keep being strong. Someday this world will change and you will enjoy the acceptance. Just know that there are tons of people who support you. We will continue to do so and to try and change public opinion until you and your boyfriend can enjoy the same treatment as heterosexual couples on Valentine's day.
That being said, I wish our society could move past its prejudices and embrace all kinds of love, but until that happens, maybe you can satisfy yourself just knowing that you have found love, and so many people of all orientations are happy you’ve found something so special and rare in this world. And the holiday IS meant for you, because you have a valentine and its “Valentine’s Day.” So tell those people to shove it, and have a Happy Valentine’s Day :)